Thursday, 19 January 2012
CHICKS WITH DICKS... REALLY?
I am an M/M writer... hopefully those of you who have read my blog before are aware of that. And, yes, I am a woman... not a man. And I am a straight woman. Therefore, I cannot profess to claim that I know the inner workings of every single gay man's mind.
As far as I am concerned, I write erotic romance where the two main characters happen to be men. Simple as. Normal, everyday men. They're not all superstars, actors, millionaires... they're ordinary run of the mill guys, fathers, lawyers, accountants.
But what kind of irritates me is some men's approach to women writing M/M. I have gay friends and I know they wouldn't mind me saying they can be sluts... just as every straight man and every straight woman can be. But I also know that sometimes, when you meet a nice guy, it's not just about the sex. You actually want to get to know him, spend time with him... god forbid actually date him and fall in love with him.
I know as a single woman with a broken marriage and several non-starting relationships behind her, I don't think every person you sleep with is treated with the same reverence and basically sometimes all you need is a fuck buddy, not a partner. But I refuse to believe that all gay men do is fuck... I'm still of the firm opinion that 95% of them make love and want a lasting commitment.
And that's the kind of story I want to write. Doesn't necessarily mean I've turned one of my characters into a chick with a dick. Just means that I think if a man can make love to his wife.... then a gay man can do the same with his husband.