Friday, 24 June 2011

Friends with Benefits

Woke up this morning wondering what insightful words of wisdom I could come up with today.  As you will see from the title...not  a lot. 

Then I was chatting to a special friend of mine, and I suddenly wondered how many people would admit to having a friend who goes above and beyond...or should it be beneath...the call of duty?

I'm sure we all know what the term "friends with benefits" refers to.  A friend, whether they be male or female, who satisfies your needs for more than coffee and a piece of cake, who offers more than a shoulder to cry on.

Okay, you're all thinking, put your money where your mouth is, Lisa, do you have one?

I have a couple actually.  Let's call them Paul and Terry...and why not, that's their names.  I came out of an unhappy relationship and met these guys through other friends.  Not at the same time I hasten to add!  I wasn't (and am still not) ready for any emotions to take priority, or to have-quotey fingers- a "Relationship", and neither are they. 

So we became friends that has developed into something that suits both parties-at the moment, anyway.  Yeah, I know that eventually I may have to fish or cut bait or, what is that wonderful expression a friend of mine used the other day, shit or get off the pot!  And yes, there may be the desire for more on their part, (does that sound bigheaded?) but for the moment, I am happy to drift along as we are, and so are they.

I have my life, i.e. my kids, my kids, my kids, and my writing and then I have my 'other' life where I get to be a woman rather than a mother.  I have to admit, I quite like it.

So...anyone else wanna 'fess up?


  1. Ummm...well... possibly...sorta... perhaps
    You get the idea